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Sailing couples stay together longer. In other words, couples who leave their comfort zone, by and large, grow closer together through the experience. Let’s look at why this happens, incidentally.
Most of my long-term married friends claim that adventure travel has strongly affected their relationship in a positive manner. Consequently, they’re celebrating anniversaries when other couples are breaking apart. Presumably, adventure travel has become a casualty of long work hours. Consequently, one’s career has supplanted adventure travel.
In any case, think about it. Gynecologists advise patients to take vacations to encourage pregnancy. The old flame is ignited when a couple travels together. Exciting new adventures fire up the relationship. For sailing couples, it’s a triple fire addiction, in fact.
Furthermore, here’s why sailing couples stay together longer.
1. Sailing and adventuring couples share common goals.
First and foremost, the single most important thing you can do in planning to sail together is to set goals. You do not succeed in travel by accident. Sure, luck may come your way, but good luck is not a strategy.
The best thing we ever did was circumnavigate the globe in a small sailboat with our kids. We never looked back. In my opinion, it was life-transforming.
2. Sailing and adventuring couples understand and adjust to limitations.
Secondly, adventuring is revealing. It brings out the best and the worst in a person. Strengths and weaknesses are quickly discovered. I tried to hide mine. It didn’t work.
In our case, when preparing for a hurricane, we were forced to look for ways to complement each other’s characteristics. We had to mold our relationship into a working, unified team, responsive to the job at hand while adjusting our limitations.
3. Sailing and adventuring couples have better communication.
Third, couples who sail together experience fewer disagreements. Adventuring couples have adopted methods of understanding their partner and situations, accurately. Patience has become a virtue, as a consequence.
In addition, sailing couples tend to be more gentle and refrain from judgment. They are careful with each other’s feelings, practice tenderness, and avoid embarrassing their partner in front of others. They realize they are on the same team and refuse to criticize or destroy each other.
4. Sailing and adventuring couples have a better sexual relationship.
According to a survey, couples who travel together have a better sexual relationship than couples who don’t travel together, in fact.
Presently, do you want to boost your sex life? Adventure more? According to a new study from Expedia, travel was a significant contributor to improving health, weight loss, gaining confidence, and increasing sex drive.
“Traveling can help reduce the levels of the stress hormone cortisol. In fact, as stress and anxiety decreases, mood increases—bringing many, often unexpected, positive benefits in how we perceive ourselves, motivation and productivity, and our general outlook on life,” Dr. Linda Papadopoulos, a psychologist who worked with Expedia on the study, said in a statement.
5. Sailing and adventuring couples get out of their comfort zone.
Meanwhile, as human beings, we are inherently afraid. Afraid of failure, afraid of what other people will think of us, afraid of being alone, afraid of change and the unknown, and afraid to let ourselves go and step outside of our comfortable little environment, never wanting to leave the path we’ve been told we’re “supposed” to take.
We’re told you have to do what’s best for you – but when you take a step back and think – are you actually doing it? Can you honestly say you feel like you’re the master of your own destiny, or are you riding on the coattails of faith in hopes that it will lead you in the right direction?
As a couple running from a comfort zone, the reward is greater. You get to run together, towards something great–adventure.
6. Sailing and adventuring couples understand neither is perfect and that’s okay.
Since you are together most of the time, there is a little space for ugly secrets. There are no facades. You have to appreciate your partner the way he or she is. Whether he snores or she has her underarm hair un-shaved, adventuring reveals a bunch of ugly truths. And with this, there is little or nothing to hide.
Understand that nothing is perfect forever. There are going to be disagreements. There will be times when your partner says or does something that is hurtful. The happy relationships will talk about it and work through it. The bad relationships will let it stew until it becomes an even bigger problem. It’s your choice.
7. Sailing and adventuring couples practice a sense of humor.
You can’t sail together without turning up some humor here and there. There are times when things just go horribly wrong and you have to laugh about it. It could be the horrible food you just bought on the street corner, having your hotel room mixed up or losing a map… something goes wrong and it is enough to have something to laugh at, to sustain your happiness along the way.
Humor in relationships is important. Life cannot be serious all the time, and although I know that sometimes it has to be that way, no one can live like that constantly. You have to make room for a little lightheartedness if you want to have a balanced love life. Being able to laugh is healthy for everyone.
8. Sailing and adventuring couples live the romance.
Romance goes way beyond what you see on cinema screens or read in a book. As an adventuring couple, romance is lived out of spontaneity and through a state of mind. Any scene, anywhere, could sparkle another moment of beauty. It is never about the money but the experience that adventuring together brings. This is why 86% of respondents in a survey of traveling couples said that their relationship still had romance alive in it, compared to 73% of respondents who never traveled together.
9. Sailing couples live in the moment.
The greatest sign of a successful life is not your bank balance or your material possessions –not your reputation either. The greatest sign of a successful life is your ability to live in the moment and be happy.
When you’re somewhere other than home, real life seems so far away. Already the past has faded slightly with every mile you journey further away. This happens whether in your boat, on a plane, or atop a camel.
When you’re somewhere unknown, it’s easier to feel the ground beneath your feet. The air surrounding you is void of the monotony of daily life that often creates a numbing effect.
10. Sailing and adventuring couples have become best friends.
Sailing couples have only each other to turn to and fewer disruptions by external bodies or persons. They prefer to stick with each other through challenges and differences. Couples who adventure together provide healthy companionship.
Peter and I have been married for thirty-eight years. We can both honestly say that we are one another’s best friends. It’s fun to talk constantly together, exercise, and go on long walks, and eat almost every meal together. We just love being in each other’s company. We prefer not to travel, unless together.
11. Sailing and adventuring couples are more forgiving.
Sailing together offers room for mistakes to be made and flaws to be revealed. However, there are challenges along the way. Couples who journey together understand the need for early forgiveness in order to move forward.
Scientists who study forgiveness have long agreed that it is one of the most important contributors to a healthy relationship. Research has even found that people who practice unconditional forgiveness are more likely to enjoy longer lives.
In addition, forgiveness is such a key component to a healthy relationship, because, let’s face it, people are not perfect. In this photo, I lost the lobster. Forgive!
12. Sailing and adventuring couples enjoy more freedom.
Furthermore, couples who have sailed together in the past relish the freedom and independence traveling provides. They find comfort in respecting each other’s solitude, privacy, and sense of presence. This provides another healthy angle to the progress of a healthy, working relationship.
Sailing together is exciting, offering reasons to always be together–through the great, the bad, and the ugly.